In or around 2013, Mom wrote a mini-memoir detailing her life and her take on The Incident, a catastrophic war between John and Neila for control of Aydin and his resources. English was not her first language and it's at times a tedious read, but it packs much insight for the interested reader.

This is a careful, exact transcript of her handwritten work. Understand that her account is neither definitive nor wholly accurate, for Mom was indeed a kook, but it says much:

BY XXXXX X XXXXXX

A summary of my life with my son John and the saga with Claudia Anne Flozberk (nee Xxxxx) and then Xxxxxxxx (ex husb) with 2 children Kristine and Alex Xxxxxxxx.

At the age of 17 (Ed. note - actually 16), June of 1953 I was married to Aydin Flozberk, a debonair 32 year (old) defying my family's objections as to his being Turkish and we Europeans and Christians. In the 10 years of marriage we never stayed 1 single night at home unless we were entertaining. He had to be on the go all the time and total control over me.

It was fun but I was disappearing, he never took NO for anything.

On Xxxx xx, 1954 John was born and I adored him. Aydin wanted him taken care of by his nanny as all his friends but I defied, to his anger, to take him places. The two never got along. Aydin expected to be first and foremost. He referred to John to me as “your son”.

On Xxxx x, 1958 Neila was born and Aydin, my grandmother, and mother who lived with us then adored her and John rightly resented her. I had to compensate for the difference (how) the 2 were treated. I even took him along on a 1 month business trip when he was 6 to the US and Europe.

Meanwhile Turkey/Istanbul had 3 coup d'etats where churches, all homes of Christians were burned and destroyed. Aydin helped endless Christian friends. My wealthy father's all assets were frozen. I was not going to raise my children in that atmosphere and decided to move to Austria or France and Aydin agreed.

After 7-8 years of marriage many escapades and unsavory things came to light and we decided to divorce, not let anyone know, and remain close best friends always. All I wanted was my 2 children.

We had 1 atty, the divorce was granted. The judge said this was the first time a wronged wife rejected both spousal and child support. I wanted a good relationship between Aydin and children and if payments were imposed he would resent it.

Nobody, including my family knew about this for our protection of a Turk. We put up a front both (I knew I could make a living). Meanwhile I helped Aydin with his business because of my foreign language skills.

In 1964 October I met Charlie Xxxxxx who came to Istanbul to take care of some machinery for 1 of Aydin's clients. I was getting ready to leave for Zurich (for Aydin) and then go to the US to sign with Aydin's customers in Little Rock, Ark. USA. Both couples had stayed in our home and enjoyed the best of Istanbul.

There were other American engineers who would come often and Aydin had arranged with one to leave for Greece one day as we (were) getting ready to leave and carry my mother's jewelry and give it to me in Athens. Turkey did not permit anyone to take out anything of value, but that did not apply to foreigners.

However, 1 day before I was told that Charlie would leave and he would take the rings etc. (bracelets, broaches) for me to Athens. Next day Aydin took me and 2 children to the airport, he had given Charlie the j(ewelry) and even my family didn't know we were leaving for good.

Once in Greece, Charlie gave me the J and we all went to a nice hotel. He had an appointment with a client and I was going to spend 3 days. He grabbed John by the hand and put Neila on his shoulders (in) the great atmosphere of Athens and we went to a nice dinner.

We became friendly and there was warmth between Charlie and the children. He was so different from the very polished men I knew, frank and open, and we started talking. We were very surprised to find out we were both headed for Arkansas, USA eventually.

I told him I was divorced, seeing he felt guilty for the attraction. We went to dinner and spent next day together. I never saw before John so at ease (as) w/Charlie as he didn't like before anybody. We exchanged addresses and phones and 3 days later we left. I told him we were going Zurich, then to London, then to New York.

As we said goodbye I thought we'd never meet again. The children ran to him to kiss him, Neila crying. We arrived on a Thursday evening in Zurich to stay 1 day. But Friday afternoon the Bank of Zurich was closed (I opened later an acct for Aydin) so had to stay till Monday or Tuesday.

Sat or Sun I went to airport to rearrange our itinerary and as going in I see Charlie come out!! Said (he) had to find us. We had 2 great days and said we'd go to NY in Hotel Commodore by Grand Central Station for a few days.

There, while walking through thousands of people Grand Central we come face to face with Charlie! Again! 2-3 great days in NY and we had to go to Chicago, then Little Rock. Then we met there.

I never had seen my children act so happily, especially John, to Charlie, so attached to all a very truthful and real person. The children loved this country and my friends of Ark(ansas?) did not like Charlie as his family were farmers.

He asked me to marry him but I had after one failure had to make sure that my children would feel cherished and cared for and so would I. We decided to try for 3 months to live in Dallas (his job) in different apts and see if this idyllic situation would continue for all 4 of us. I enrolled the children in school to see how they would react.

Everything went well and after 3 months after discussing it especially w/John and also Neila I accepted. We rented 1 apt 3 bdrms for after and married in St Edwards Church 1965. His father gave me away and wonderful mother and sister and brothers there.

I felt guilty about Aydin as this was too far away to visit than France as we had decided. He was demanding answers when he came to make us leave the US.

We were very happy. Later my mom and dad came over and Charlie was and still is the best husband, friend, and father to my children. On Xxxx xx, 1968 our son Chuck was born.

Meanwhile Aydin came, furious, saying I kidnapped his children and trying to make us leave the US. He turned the children against me we let them stay with him till his anger dissipated but we understood his anger and dealt with patience. Then he fell in love with a wonderful lovely woman – Barbara – with whom I became very friendly so as the children would not play 1 against the other.

We bought a home and they custom-built a nice home with a pool but Aydin never offered 1 dollar for child support or for any need including abnormal dental care. We never asked for help from them.

Charlie built 2 extra rooms and 1 bath for Neila and the largest for John. The best went to John. Although he had a job as a stockboy with a friend – Steve (Xxxxx) – who lived w/ us and called me Mom, we never asked him to pay 1 cent.

Charlie found and bought his (John's) first car, we made payments and paid insurance. We paid for University of Texas North and when graduated he asked us to help him buy his home. We did – a Fox and Jacobs 3 bdrm 2 bath home.

When he fell in love (after Pamela – they lived in our home) with Kay she wanted to move to Plano. He bought a home there after selling his house at $40,000 gain and sank it in a (????) contract which ended in foreclosure and eviction.

Charlie and I gave them a lot of money. $20,000 cash, then over $40,000 (for) a business he started and many, many others. (John) had 2 children, and after his bankruptcy gave him enough for credit card and foreclosure and renting (?) secured a home 5 bedrooms w/ payable in 5 yrs – New – w/ huge down payment (price $155,000) to save the family.

Gave him extra $30,000 to pay out his home cause he was always behind. Then he went and had Sears build a large gym-exercise room all glass for tens of equipment and a large pool. But then he wanted cascading waters w/ special stones especially built which he wouldn't pay for. The Co. put a lien on the house when he divorced.

He found another 5/5 home. New woman, new house.

Then I paid for his divorce and for Kay to get herself a home in Plano w/ his daughter Cynthia. He asked Tony his son to move in. As later Tony told me, he would pick up young women needy and move them w/kids in the grand house. “A woman moves in, I am told to go, then she goes, I come and then over and over the same thing.

With Jennifer #1 he bought her a $25,000 ring from acct-savings I opened for him – see original that he signed and we went together, in his deposition he said never happened. I transferred it from my account not to draw from but to add to. I put $36,000 – he closed account and had $100 in checking and owing thousands in credit cards.

She took the ring and left him, he was so crushed. I didn't have the heart to say anything.

Then he met Jennifer 2. Again he wanted a full wedding, reception, band, etc. The shindig was 2 days after my mother died and her body was at mortuary. He said I had to be there for the second dance (1st with bride). With my heart breaking I went – dressed in red, until I about fainted and had to leave.

Neila surprisingly always in vain trying to please her brother (despite the fact that though I begged and pleaded with him for his sister and her husband to be included in his night before his wedding 2 family dinner, he refused and on Kay's side there were over 20, mother, father, sisters, brothers, in-laws, aunts, etc. and on our side 3 – Charlie, me, and our 12 year old son. My mother was furious with me for again “being on John's side” and she didn't attend either. They attended the wedding but barely spoke to me).

Then John and Jennifer left on a cruise and were not there for my ma's funeral, though in his dep(osition) he said he was there.

He married Jennifer 2 in March 2002 and threw her out with her 3 children on Xmas Eve. She came to my home with his (her?) daughter at Xmas Eve brought us a beautiful plant and thanked me for so much and his (???) daughter crying.

Then, new women, new houses, and more debts. Twice - 1st time 12 mos, 2nd time 13 months unemployed, I gave $6,000, $5,000 or so every month, each time that all these were loans to be paid upon demand with reasonable interest. The last loan Charlie went monthly to (13 times) Washington Mutual to pay his $2,200 approx mortgage so that he wouldn't lose the house.

Then in 2006 he met Claudia Anne a stewardess with Xxxxxxxx Xxxxxxxx. He brought her over to our house, they seemed to be in love, always on the go, and both Neila and I were delighted as she showed to be very pro-family. My son wouldn't be alone and Neila would have some help maybe with Aydin (her father) who like his son had to be entertained, served, and be everyday the main event 16-18 hours a day on Neila, Reagan, and the children everyday.

He wanted to stay home but have company from the moment he woke up. 1 person couldn't keep up, needed the whole family. Though he had bouts of forgetfulness, he was in excellent health, very close to his daughter, and loved Reagan.

His relation with John was always adversarial and especially became worse as Aydin did not like Claudia. He proposed to her at the top of the Eiffel Tower, they called me from there and I was delighted. Then they called me from Istanbul, happy. Then, they came back and married, and all our troubles soon began. At first with small things.

Though John owned a 5 bedroom 5B home he bought another bigger and nicer home for his wedding. Again bride in white with all the trimmings. Now he had 2 homes he couldn't afford.

Her family, sisters brothers lived in Austin and they decided to move to Austin. She started a real campaign on me, visited every free day at least once or twice a week and called me even from plane or city she was in.

2007 Neila took my husband to hospital but she (Claudia) wanted to replace her when during each of his many surgeries. When Neila came along as Charlie wanted her she barred the door to Neila upon our return to home and told her to go home rudely as she was in charge at our house.

She asked me to change my will so that John would receive more cash upon my death and to eliminate their feeling cheated. I agreed. She made sure, brought her sister and a friend and my atty Roberts came w/ his secretary Bibi to amend the will. That was the beginning.

I asked John if she knew of the huge debts he owed us he said no. I never mentioned it to her.

Meanwhile, she bought him a Rolex with credit, 3 luxury cars, 1 expensive truck, Versace or Dior clothes all on credit cards.

Meanwhile she wanted as soon as they sold the houses they would move into Aydin's home for free so that they would buy a large lot in Austin and build a mansion w/ 4 car garage. I told her to ask Aydin before making plans thought I thought this would give Neila a little room to breathe 2-3 days a week if they took partial care of him.

But she wanted an empty home as she said “John has to be naked in his house”. Then she hinted that she would take care of us and John had drawn their house plans and behind it our house plans so that we'd move to Austin.

John told me I can't deny her anything as she adopted me!! Then they both started coming endlessly and asking us to disown Neila. Charlie and I thought they were losing their minds with an uncontrollable hatred for Neila cause both and we loved her. John said I had to “replace a bad daughter with a good daughter Claudia.”

This went on for months until 2008 Easter and Mother's Day. Never told Neila until he started demanding that Neila sign whatever document he put in front of her. He wanted Neila to take care of his father – they had bought a home with double master quarters for Aydin and them, leveled a wall put a special large shower. John visited and approved. He wanted his home and control of his assets, she'd be for free and she got paid for nothing.

They tortured Charlie and I for months, Charlie with many surgeries and I truly sick threatening us all, that unless we all obeyed them (literally handed our lives over to them) Aydin would be declared or found incompetent and he'd put him away and Neila would be arrested and died in jail he already spoke with the D.A..

Neila and Reagan were terrified. The fact that Aydin told them he didn't want to give John control of anything didn't stop them, they seemed possessed, crazy. Then 2 days after they buried Reagan's father he called and said meet now or else.

That same week Sunday morning they took (N & R) Aydin to his usual game of tennis at Brookhaven. They were ambushed by John and Claudia who handed her the paper about appointment with atty Cohen or else. Neila didn't show Aydin not to upset him but came to me crying and frightened.

I didn't know abut APS I thought he was going to sue. I kept asking him why doesn't he just pick his father and take him to atty to get a P.O. He said he won't do it. Told him to leave Neila alone. They both seemed obsessed with taking over all our lives – Aydin's, Neila's, Charlie, and mine.

I told her (Claudia) at last that her deeds were appalling and despicable endless bullying of vulnerable people and even a veiled threat that she always carried a gun in her car.

John was angry with me and called me furious that all our crazy encounters didn't give him what he wanted. Said the reason Neila belonged in jail was especially “Mind Control of Aydin” cause he didn't want to comply with them Claudia shouted “she's a criminal and belongs in jail”.

I was on the phone for over 7 hours pleading 5:00 PM to 12:00 AM pleading for some sanity and not to put me in such untenable situation to protect the vulnerable which I would. He assured me that they had the situation “fool-proof” and unless we all met their demand we'd lose. I told him that was blackmail of the lowest kind, threatening his mother with the destruction of her daughter. They sounded obsessed and sheer vitriol

I still couldn't figure out the absurdity of so many of our discussions at our home until I learned from his deposition later that he was taping us every time, hoping we'd (Charlie and I) agree with them that Aydin was incompetent and Neila evil. Which of course was far from the truth.

Then APS called Neila wanting to interview Neila and Aydin and set a date. I called APS and spoke with Deanna Xxxxxx to tell her if she approached Aydin pleasantly he would respond easily not to treat him harshly. She told me she'd discuss it next morning with John! (If you read his dep he you'll see she called him again).

I called him to tell him that his son's wanting to take his decision making from him would destroy him. He (John) said if he (Aydin) signs the papers he wants he will withdraw his petition. APS would do as Claudia and he told them. She used them – CPS on her ex and children before, they had to leave Texas.

Mr. Xxxxxxxx had to take a TRO against Claudia, the day of their departure the police were called at their home and John and Claudia were told to get out of house and stay 7 yds away.

The certainty they displayed worried me so I called my atty Jim Xxxxxxx he advised an atty for Neila which we did (Thadeus Xxxxx) and someone for Aydin had to be apart for Aydin only, he couldn't recommend but gave me several names of reputable firms. I chose the Xxxxxxxxx, called James Xxxxxxxx I explained situation.

He told me in order to take a client they had to ascertain that he was competent they would be for his interest alone. He asked me to set a time with Aydin – who hated lawyers – at his home to decide. I called Aydin that a gentleman an atty wanted to visit him if he didn't like him it would end there if he liked each other only then could he engage him. Said OK.

Next day Mr. James Xxxxxxxx Sr. visited Aydin stayed for 4 hours. Called me and said he was competent and a delightful gentleman, forgetful at 85 was OK and they would accept him as a client. Aydin told me he liked the man, he was going to sign 2 days later at APS meeting attended. He picked up Aydin and brought him to the house the APS was investigating per John's wishes or his attorney.

Before the meeting Mr. X called Atty Cohen the supposed John's atty, they said never heard of John , there was no meeting ever scheduled at time specified in paper John gave Neila at tennis club. Mr. Xxxxxxxx called me surprised, he said bullying and asked for John's number. I gave it to him.

Later he called me very disappointed with John he said was furious that Aydin had an atty, he asked him who put him in touch with Aydin. Mr. Xxxxxxxx said your mother. Mr. X told me he went nuts, screaming and taping him, said we're dealing with someone bad, but he would protect Aydin.

Then John called me screaming. He told me if I destroyed his fool-proof plan he would never forgive me and would never speak to me again. All his life I was his rock and now I betrayed him. I tried to tell him I had no other choice as his plan was built on utter lies and destruction of innocent people so that he could build his wife a mansion she wanted in Austin.

Now he was punishing me by removing himself forever out of my life, knowing how much I loved him. Before that I did all I could to make him happy but allowing such a horrible travesty and not helping 2 people who absolutely (no one) ever deserved such a fate, loss of their funds, their lives and their chosen way of life just for money.

The two collaborated for months trying for months to wear us out. When APS arrived this time Neila no P.O. Mr. Xxxxx was there for Neila so was J. Xxxxxxx to keep an eye on N since John bragged she's be arrested on the spot. Why? I'd say. Answer - you'll see.

Mr. Xxxxxxxx was sitting w/ Aydin in his car he came out and introduced himself to everyone including APS atty Ms. Xxx, Deanna XxXxxx, and then went to sit with Aydin who never had a parking ticket in his life, saw them enter his home (in Turkey no police or government agency can enter your home without your specific permission and the person of the petition has to be there present)

Depending on that he told his atty Mr X to stop them he said he can't. He asked who sent them. Mr H said your son. Aydin said it can't be where IS he? (Thinking of Turkish law). He kept asking Mr H to stop them from entering that house when said he couldn't he told him “then what do I need a atty for?”

If they could come back again? Was told yes. Then he said he'll never enter that house again! And he never did no matter what couldn't change his mind. By the end of October Neila stopped paying mortgage and lost house.

At conclusion of APS after dismissing Mr. X he walked to the lawyers the APS atty Ms. Xxx told him we are here to protect you. He told them “If I needed your protection I'd call you. Did I call you? I don't want anything to do w/ you or talk to you, good-bye and have a nice day and started walking away, Neila ran after him.

Ms. Xxx said this man is not going to do anything he doesn't want to do (now John in law suit says Mr. Xxxxx from Xxxxx called him and represented Aydin – NOT TRUE – 4 attys witnesses.

I went as a witness for Neila to 2 trials that John filed for guardianship of Aydin, told about John's fool proof plan and how he accused me of fouling it. Also that he owes no money which he conveniently forgets. Proofs of about $300,000 at Xxxxx in grey file which Bart Xxxxxxx asked for but never used.

We received very few documents and Melinda Xxxxx atty for Neila joined Bart without our knowledge or consent. We received news of guardianship of John over 5 minute phone call and amount owed by Neila over another 5-10 minute phone call.

They always said we won't settle, Neila never took but was given by a P.O. prepared by her father and owes nothing. They would always take care of him. Did they go to court to say NO to the demands. We have no documents, they never bothered.

I hired them and payed them for Neila as she had no funds – a loan – I never took 1 dollar from Aydin's money (including child support) and 1 errant check of $4290 which Aydin insisted for Neila to pay me, I reimbursed it. See atty paid bills.

The boorish way he talks about me (his mother) is sad. Conspiracy between John and Claudia has cost me over $200,000 in atty fees + punitive damages + $300,000 in debts + interest and penalties, torturing us non-stop filing a malicious fraudulent suit. Demand a minimum of $700,000 + punitive and bring Claudia in as conspirator – all done for her demands.

I also want if you agree to sue Xxxxxxx for knowlingly filing a fraudulent lawsuit. He always knew the following I'm accused of:

1) Bart Xxxxxxx, Melinda Xxxxx, T. Xxxxx, and Jim Xxxxxxx were never hired as attorneys for Aydin, but for Neila, since he (Xxxxxx) was conspiring and in collusion with John.

2) I never took 1 penny from Aydin's assets, they were paid by me above attys.

3) He greatly profited from the assets and home of Aydin who I tried to protect. He gave everything, whole house furniture, pure silver service, a car to his co-conspirator John. Have pictures of large U-Haul truck to fill up all day.

4) John told the last court that he would never take any money to care for his father as Neila did. So why now he is asking for money, and a gift?

5) Since John took over guardianship 6 months Aydin has deteriorated. He never took him out 1 time. He is a prisoner in a room. Neila took him out at least 4-5 times a week he delighted in it.

As for Xxxxxxx he spent much more than Neila did for his keep without any effort from him. He treated Neila with contempt, rudely, and dismissively.

Neila spent years bringing joy of life and happiness to her father. They truly loved each other and still do. Her attys destroyed not only Neila and Aydin too and myself by not answering or taking care as they should and kept us perpetually in the dark and had no time for us.

Aydin has and is paying the ultimate price which breaks my heart. He spent a lot of time in our house where he sang even danced enjoyed lunches and dinners, but now we are afraid to move him as John will accuse us of hurting him. He has become in last 6 months a shadow of his former self.

I have not had a good night's sleep in 4 years. Woken by nightmares and wrecked by pain, unable to breathe and still can't believe what happened, the pain continues.

I wonder how did all this hatred, anger, lack of reason and fairness took over, especially since there was never a hurtful or angry scene (at least not aloud) in our home, and later among all of us. Even our disagreements were civilized, and I believed we would never do anything to cause even malaise, let alone pure spite, to each other.

Charlie and I were always ready to be there for family and tried never to bother them with our sicknesses or troubles. Never thought they'd cause this endless nightmare. Please help!!! Put an end to all this.

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